in need of a word

i think english needs a word for understanding something emotionally

you can understand intellectually that for example it is over between yourself and person A but not understand it emotionally

i thought perhaps "grok" but to grok somthing is to know something intellectually and emotionally - it doesn't seperate the two and a good percentage of the time the two are not in lock step

like in Jane Austen's Emma
warning spoiler

Emma's relationship with Frank Churchill where she fancies herself in love and it's all in the mind and she comments at one point how interesting it is that her first thought is for Frank but it wasn't it was for Mr Knightley

sort of to know something in your heart

and not always positively

you can tell yourself u don't hate person B because hate is wrong and destructive but deep down u do hate them

over time (hopefully) the intellectual and the emotional become congruent and a little self knowledge helps

and also

thanks to Josh for the cartoon

also i know anxiety is usually unproductive and destructive but often I can't control the feeling but i know it's just anxiety

we're too often just 10,000 years of reason riding on top of 5 billion years of chemistry